Last weekend, our small Sedona community (approx population 10,000) was struck by two fatal car crashes. One crash occurred on our main street in West Sedona when a local man, wanting to end his life, deliberately hit another car head-on, killing two passengers (tourists) in that car and fatally shooting himself after the crash. The other tragedy involved a local woman who stopped to assist another car on busy interstate I-17. She walked across lanes of the interstate highway to reach passengers in a rollover accident. While crossing lanes of busy highway, she was struck by an oncoming vehicle and died instantly.
We never know when tragedy strikes. Learning how to cope with death, loss, tragedy, disappointments is important. Fact of life, unfortunately.
Many people in Sedona, not connected to the victims, survivors or their families, are finding it difficult to deal with these tragic events. Tragedy rarely hits our town. Most Sedonans feel protected from the rest of the world's tragic events. Many locals call it "The Sedona Bubble." Our friendly, casual, Mayberry RFD-type bubble feels safe, secure, quiet by most society standards. Although we have different belief systems and opinions.
When part of that bubble breaks, it frightens people who haven't experienced major tragedies in their life. That's completely understandable. Their fear causes them to act out, be angry, blame others, cast judgements, question life, question their beliefs. It's caused a major fracture in our community, especially on Sedona's local community Facebook page. Judgments and anger run rampant on that page. Whether it's a discussion about the tragedies or other issues our town faces. Not everyone knows how to deal with tragedy. Not everyone knows how to deal with and accept opposing views. Part of the human condition.
Social Media can help or harm. Words can be taken out of context. When you type a comment, you never know the emotional state of a person reading it. Personal, physical communication prevents most misunderstandings. Seeing someone's face or body language helps you decide how to speak with them.
There is a lot of anger in the world today. Many people feel unsettled, uncertainty. Most of us want to cut through the uncertainty, negativity and bring more balance, love or understanding to ourselves or others. Sometimes we can do that effectively and quickly on Social Media. Sometimes we cannot. It all depends on the emotional or mental state of the person you're talking with.
When tragedy strikes and you're not personally connected with the victims, say a prayer for them and their loved ones who still walk this Earth. Feel whatever you feel. All emotions and responses are valid, as long as you aren't breaking the law! Once you've processed the tragedy from your own perspective, feel thankful & blessed for your life. Remember life is short and unpredictable. Do the best you can with the gifts & talents you have. Your life is precious. Your time here is limited. Make every day count. That's the real lesson with tragedies. Especially when you're not directly affected, connected to it. Survivor's Guilt is a difficult road to walk. I've walked it as a survivor of double-homicide. It's not necessary to walk that hellish road if you're not directly affected. Choose to stay positive. Appreciate the good things in your life. Concentrate on you. If Social Media brings you down, turn it off or change the channel.
Robin Amanda Kelley - Sedona Spirit Psychic